Cults, destructive cults, religions, harmful religions, interpersonal mind control and manipulation – lots of aspects of controlling situations here. What’s ok? What’s not ok?

This is how you know your religion is harmful.

An even more extensive list here.

An absolutely thoroughly extensive, exhaustive list of aspects that can indicate cult behavior.

I want to do or even be perceived as doing none or at least the minimum of any of these aspects to anyone in the course of every interaction. And I want it in return. Yeah, sometimes it’s subjective. And sometimes it can be like trying to hold lava lamp goo between our fingers when we try to describe what our intentions were. But still, this is what I aim for. Why not?