Recently I sat down with Diane Rinella and a number of friends and we discussed consanguinamory , which is incest between consenting adults. Of all the taboo subjects I’ve discussed over the years, this one rose above them all for making people uncomfortable. It’s mostly illegal but should it be? Does it really warrant penalties more severe than first degree murder?
We had the conversation and did the research. See what you think.
The Awful Lie That’s Been Told About Men Since Pretty Much The Dawn Of Time – that your natural state is rapist.
Powerful message. I don’t think Google Glass will be smart enough to help with this. I think we have to do this ourselves.
Two guys stage bullying scenes on a university campus to see what people will do.
I’ve been around bullies who were much bigger than I. If I had acted in their presence, they would’ve smeared me into the ground just like they were doing to the other person. But strength in numbers – and drawing attention to the scene – is what it takes. Call police from a safe distance, at least!
I found it difficult to watch so many students all walk by at the same time while no one did anything. Also hard to hear the one guy just not want to get involved At All.
Really – how we’d feel if we were the one being bullied and no one did anything?
A powerful response to bullying. Yes, the words hurt just like the broken bones. And those words are wrong.
This story has so moved me considering what happened just when the situation was changed. This little boy got a dog and then received positive attention because of the dog instead of negative attention because of his wheelchair.
I cannot stop thinking about how just rearranging ourselves somehow can change the whole dynamic of how we interact.
It reminds me of Hugh MacLeod’s term social object. And how having a fuck doily social object has opened up conversations with me that I really wanted that would not have happened otherwise.
How might we rearrange ourselves today?
Now, in a suburb of Madison, Wisconsin, parents can be ticketed if their child is a chronic bully.
We cannot teach a child not to <blank> by <blank>ing them.
We cannot teach a child not to bully by bullying them.
This punishment is an act of bullying and publicly shames the boy. The harm in this parent’s actions could easily go underground in the child and this shame the child feels now could come out later in something like a school shooting, exactly what this parent was trying to prevent.
We are a nation swimming in shame. We are learning more about this as a society, but it can’t come soon enough for me.
For answers, I can suggest Brené Brown who is endearingly referred to as the Shame Researcher. I admit I am a groupie of hers.
The National Bullying Prevention Center offers digital-based resources for parents, schools, teens and youth concerning bullying.
If you have related parental resources to recommend, feel free to add them in the comments.
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The scary life of dealing with a troll – and what happens when one meets this troll.
If only we could see ourselves this way. I cannot say enough good things about this video.