Category Archives: Sex

Are We Designed to be Sexual Omnivores?

Sex at Dawn author Christopher Ryan: Are we designed to be sexual omnivores?

3:25 – Fierce Egalitarianism – the best way to mitigate risk in a foraging context (society)

5.30 – To argue that our ancestors were sexual omnivores is no more a criticism of monogamy than to argue that our ancestors were dietary omnivores is a criticism of vegetarianism. You can choose to be a vegetarian but don’t think that just because you’ve made that decision, bacon stopped smelling good.

7:30 – Female Copulatory Vocalization

9:05 – each person is sexually autonomous; many sexual partners for each woman and man; no shame associated with sexual behavior

9:40 – Partable paternity: fetus is made of accumulated semen of many men; woman has sex with the men who have characterists she wants in her child. Paternity is a team endeavor.

10:20 – “All that we can surmise of humankind’s genetic history argues for a more liberal sexual morality, in which sexual practices are to be regarded first as bonding devices and only second as a means of procreation.” – E. O. Wilson

Human sexuality is first a bonding device and only secondarily procreation.
Our evolved sexuality is in direct conflict with many aspects of the modern world. The contradictions between what we’re told we should feel and what we actually do feel generates a huge amount of unnecessary suffering.

11:10 – … and that we’ll finally put to rest the idea that men have some innate instinctive right to monitor and control women’s sexual behavior.

11:25 – We all have closets we have to come out of. Our fight is not with each other. Our fight is with an outdated Victorian sense of human sexuality that conflates desire with property rights, generates shame and confusion in place of understanding and empathy.

ED Related to Internet Porn Use?

Is internet porn use and addiction related to ED? Around minute 10.

There seems to be some science behind this claim in the video. Maybe it can be refuted.

Also, they’re not claiming that all porn is bad, just that possibly some uses of it at certain times in one’s life may have detrimental effects on the brain and person.

Are We Missing a Dirty Word?

While discussing sex in our culture with a couple friends who had been in marriages that had very little sex, I heard my one friend who has a knack for Steven Wright-like statements wonder this:

Friend: “Fornicate” only pertains to marriage. It’s sex without marriage.

… some time passes.

Friend: Is there a dirty word for marriage without sex?

Sex in the Middle of the Road

I sooo wish I’d had my camera with me recently.  I was in the Mission around Valencia and 18th and I saw Sex Happening in the Middle of the Street!

You know how that street has this pseudo parking lane right down the middle?  I have yet to figure that out except that I often see cars parked there.

Well, this night two big brown UPS trucks were parked back to back almost touching!  AND packages were moving from one into the other!!

I wrote to Allan over at missionmission ’cause it was too funny.  Then I apologized for being so entertained by the benign.

His response was even funnier:

“Oh don’t  get me started on the benign. I saw a Cup ‘o Noodles balanced on top of a fire hydrant the other night — took pictures from three different angles because it tickled me so.”

I see he’s posted it here.

Then I wondered – who put the noodles there? Did they do it on purpose? If so, what was it? To give Allan something to photograph and a chuckle and a way through another few minutes of his life? Did they watch him? Or maybe they were trying to duck into a cab with their friends and the cabbie said no noodles in the cab …

But back to the UPS trucks.

I bet the UPS people have a word for that. they must plan those rendezvouz, don’t ya think? And how do they talk about it? Hey … uh … Jack … we … uh … gotta go do that thing with our vans … at 7 tonite … in the middle of Valencia … .

Nooo, they Must have a word for it. What Is It? Does anyone work at one of these places or have a relative they can ask?

Now I’m really curious but I’ve spooked enough people with my doily art – I’m gonna let someone else explore this time.

Let me know what you find out.

Cheers to Us as We Sail into 2013!

Jack is well positioned at the maidenhead of this here sailboat to take us through whatever taboo waters 2013 brings up.

If you’re new to Jack, Jack was created in about 38 seconds of whimsy out of hot plastic by a friend.  Another friend then stole it, claiming I needed to have it.

I was and still am overly appreciative of their creativity and their offering.  I immediately started taking pictures of Jack in all sorts of natural settings.  Maybe someday this solo Jack act (and solo Jill act) won’t be so taboo.  It is coming around, so to speak.

Both friends prefer to remain anonymous although I’ve said it again and again that I will happily provide credit if it is ever so desired.  Thank you two!


Carry on!