Category Archives: Cultural

Consanguinamory

Recently I sat down with Diane Rinella and a number of friends and we discussed consanguinamory , which is incest between consenting adults. Of all the taboo subjects I’ve discussed over the years, this one rose above them all for making people uncomfortable. It’s mostly illegal but should it be? Does it really warrant penalties more severe than first degree murder?

We had the conversation and did the research. See what you think.

Bullying Experiment

Two guys stage bullying scenes on a university campus to see what people will do.

I’ve been around bullies who were much bigger than I. If I had acted in their presence, they would’ve smeared me into the ground just like they were doing to the other person. But strength in numbers – and drawing attention to the scene – is what it takes. Call police from a safe distance, at least!

I found it difficult to watch so many students all walk by at the same time while no one did anything. Also hard to hear the one guy just not want to get involved At All.

Really – how we’d feel if we were the one being bullied and no one did anything?

Social Objects – in Time

This story has so moved me considering what happened just when the situation was changed. This little boy got a dog and then received positive attention because of the dog instead of negative attention because of his wheelchair.

I cannot stop thinking about how just rearranging ourselves somehow can change the whole dynamic of how we interact.

It reminds me of Hugh MacLeod’s term social object. And how having a fuck doily social object has opened up conversations with me that I really wanted that would not have happened otherwise.

How might we rearrange ourselves today?

How Does Bullying Your Kid Teach Them not to Bully?

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We cannot teach a child not to bully by bullying them.

This punishment is an act of bullying and publicly shames the boy. The harm in this parent’s actions could easily go underground in the child and this shame the child feels now could come out later in something like a school shooting, exactly what this parent was trying to prevent.

We are a nation swimming in shame. We are learning more about this as a society, but it can’t come soon enough for me.

For answers, I can suggest Brené Brown who is endearingly referred to as the Shame Researcher. I admit I am a groupie of hers.

The National Bullying Prevention Center offers digital-based resources for parents, schools, teens and youth concerning bullying.

If you have related parental resources to recommend, feel free to add them in the comments.

 

Father forces son to hold pink ‘I am a bully’ sign on Texas highway (via Raw Story )

A Texas father is refusing to apologize for forcing his child to hold a pink “I am a bully” sign because he says that “we don’t need another Columbine.” When Jose Lagares found out that his son got in trouble for bullying in his fourth grade…

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