Sex at Dawn author Christopher Ryan: Are we designed to be sexual omnivores?
3:25 – Fierce Egalitarianism – the best way to mitigate risk in a foraging context (society)
5.30 – To argue that our ancestors were sexual omnivores is no more a criticism of monogamy than to argue that our ancestors were dietary omnivores is a criticism of vegetarianism. You can choose to be a vegetarian but don’t think that just because you’ve made that decision, bacon stopped smelling good.
7:30 – Female Copulatory Vocalization
9:05 – each person is sexually autonomous; many sexual partners for each woman and man; no shame associated with sexual behavior
9:40 – Partable paternity: fetus is made of accumulated semen of many men; woman has sex with the men who have characterists she wants in her child. Paternity is a team endeavor.
10:20 – “All that we can surmise of humankind’s genetic history argues for a more liberal sexual morality, in which sexual practices are to be regarded first as bonding devices and only second as a means of procreation.” – E. O. Wilson
Human sexuality is first a bonding device and only secondarily procreation.
Our evolved sexuality is in direct conflict with many aspects of the modern world. The contradictions between what we’re told we should feel and what we actually do feel generates a huge amount of unnecessary suffering.
11:10 – … and that we’ll finally put to rest the idea that men have some innate instinctive right to monitor and control women’s sexual behavior.
11:25 – We all have closets we have to come out of. Our fight is not with each other. Our fight is with an outdated Victorian sense of human sexuality that conflates desire with property rights, generates shame and confusion in place of understanding and empathy.